Catharsis does not always come quickly in a Sour Widows song, but when it does, it hits like a lightning strike. On early singles and EPs, musicians Maia Sinaiko and Susanna Thomson intermingled their voices and guitar melodies while dreamy soundscapes sprawled into extended vamps, holding tight to both tension and tenderness. The Bay Area band has honed its process on its debut full-length, Revival of a Friend—an album filled with patient, gracious songs that unfold with careful momentum and deep emotion.

Revival of a Friend is shaped by grief: Both Sinaiko and Thomson faced significant loss in the years since starting the band, and those experiences are embedded in their songwriting. The dynamic “I-90” pays tribute to a partner Sinaiko lost to an accidental overdose, filtering sweet, quotidian memories through the retrospective lens of sorrow. “Initiation,” too, is a song of mourning, written after the 2021 death of Thomson’s mother; its imagery is striking, combining the sacred and visceral in lyrics that sing of “Heaven spilling at the steppe/Stardust in the cup of my hand.”

Many of these songs depict a narrator reaching out for connection, grasping for something just beyond their grasp: “Fuck everything I did/To feel good for a moment,” goes the opening of “Cherish,” which eventually comes around to a pleading note: “Will you love me through this?” But beneath the desperation and severed connections lies the sound of musicians who are deeply attuned to each other. Sinaiko and Thomson are longtime friends who first met as teenagers and have written songs together ever since. You can hear their intimacy in the way they play and sing together—guitar melodies that snake and vine around each other; vocal harmonies where each voice complements the other with richness and depth. Drummer Max Edelman joined the band after Sinaiko and Thomson’s very first show as a duo, and his playing—along with bassist Timmy Stabler—ranges from delicate to thunderous, forming a deft backbone for the songs’ ebbs and flows.

Several songs shift seamlessly into instrumental interludes—like the spacey, slowcore-indebted “Revival,” which follows opener “Big Dogs,” or the gently rolling “Gold Thread,” which extends and explores musical themes introduced in “Initiation.” These blood-pressure-lowering respites make the album’s moments of breakthrough hit even harder. “Witness,” also written in the wake of Thomson’s mother’s death, has a roller coaster’s momentum: When a tight rhythm and strummed chords in the verse give way to a more elastic beat and gracefully ambling guitar lines, it feels like a fist unclenching. Later, a similar musical build erupts into full-on release; the whole band is propelled powerfully forward by the heaviness of loss, a “feeling” that “would kill you,” as Sinaiko and Thomson shout. When the song downshifts and sways into its final moments, the effect is dizzying.

The closing track, also an elegy, likewise spends its final minutes in poignant slow burn. Thomson has said the song is about learning and re-learning that, in grief, there is no one right way to feel, and there’s no way out but through. After Thomson sings the song’s final lines, the band continues to play for a few minutes more, gaining intensity then slowly receding, as if working through these changing and overwhelming emotions together, in real time.